Colombian women are some of the sexiest and the feminine in the world. They represent the classic Latin look with long dark hair and voluptuous bodies. My first trip to Colombia over a decade ago taught me that dating Colombian women is very different than in the United States or any other Western country. For the most part, men can relax and be themselves. They can let the biological forces between men and women take their natural course. In the world of dating in Colombian women, it is fine to be a worldly, confident beta and to compliment a woman. In Colombia, there is no need for cheesy PUA Game tactics and rehearsed scripts.
In this article, we will breakdown the unique traits of Colombian women and how you should approach dating them in a post-pandemic world. This discussion will guide you on the best strategies for meeting, dating, and dealing with the unique cultural factors that influence relationships in this South American country. It will conclude with the best two cities to meet women based on considerable time spent in this country.
Establishing comfort and rapport should be your first task
It is important to understand the violent past of Colombia and its effect on the psyche. Demonstrate that the woman is safe in your company. Once you do this, they will be inclined to hang out at your apartment rather quickly, although sex is not guaranteed. With the exception of Gold-diggers and Prepagos, these girls are relationship-minded. One-night stands are rare. However, 2 to 4 dates normally should seal the deal.
You are expected to pay for everything on dates with Colombian women. In Colombia, the idea of Going Dutch is a big turn-off. Choose a location close to your apartment and pick up the bill for coffee (during the day) drinks or a light meal at night. Some girls will ask you to pay for their taxis.
This is a personal choice on how to proceed. But take into consideration her socioeconomic situation, barrio, and interest she has expressed. Proceed with caution.
Age difference is not a big deal while dating in Colombia, which is one of the reasons I love it. I have dated from 19-30, with the talent level from 6.5 to 8.5. Although I love dating younger girls, my best connections were developed with girls in their mid-20s. They are less flakey, maintained their beauty and I have much more to speak with them about.
Understand Colombian Culture
It is vital to understand that Colombians will always try to save face. They are non-confrontational in their approach to social interactions. Colombians are amenable and will tell you what you want to hear. Colombian women have a hard time saying no.
They are not direct in stating their opposition or when they are fully interested in you as a man. The best way to gauge their interest is through their behavior.
When a Colombian woman is interested, she will want to see you at least a few times per week. If she is not messaging you every day and expressing an interest in seeing you, it is safe to assume that she is either:
- Dating someone else
- Frankly not interested
Infidelity is rampant in Colombian culture. Men and women cheat. Colombians are highly passionate and love sex. Colombian women will only commit to a man when she truly feels love. Anything short of this, expect her to test the waters with other men.
Dating Options That work
Now we’re going to go through the main ways to meet Colombian girls both in Colombia and anywhere else you might be looking:
Online dating makes meeting Colombian girls really easy
Online dating is very common in Colombia and has been the easiest way for us to meet girls, this is also true for meeting Colombian women in other cities around the world. Tinder used to be solid but girls the girls are now very flaky. If you’re not at least a 9/10 in looks you’re really going to struggle using it
Instead, there are a couple of apps that have worked really well for me and most of the average-looking guys I know:
When you’re just looking for something physical and casual Adult FriendFinder is going to be your #1
We’ve tried just about every dating app out there over the years and nothing has been consistently good as Adult FriendFinder when it comes to meeting Colombians. The reason it works so well is that it tends to attract women that actually want to meet up instead of girls that just want you to boost their ego. It’s a big difference from Tinder.
AFF also has the benefit of being REALLY popular in just about any city that has some English-speaking people. With over 70 million active users it’s safe to say that you can find someone just about anywhere (at least that has been my experience). Check out their free trial and see how it shakes out. I haven’t found an easier way to do it yet.
The best online dating site for meeting Colombian women for a relationship is Colombian Cupid.
It is recommended that you start messaging girls a few weeks prior to your trip for the best results. The girls who have profiles on Colombian Cupid tend to be less flaky than Tinder and more serious about actual long-term commitments. Also, the women in Colombian Cupid are specifically looking to meet foreign men, it’s pretty notorious for that. If that’s what you’re after this is a great option.
If you are coming from Day Game heaven in Eastern Europe, you might be disappointed. On average the women in Colombia are not at hot as say Ukraine or Russia. If you are heading out with the specific purpose to approach in the day, you may need to wait long periods of time to see an attractive target. This isn’t to suggest that there aren’t hot Colombian women. There are, but in less quantity as in Eastern Europe.
Colombian women are not used to be approached directly during the day. Even with solid Spanish skills, they may respond in a shy manner. It is best to open her indirectly such as a question on where to locate a particular store or café. If there is some chemistry make a more direct statement of interest and close her WhatsApp or Instagram.
Meeting women at nightclubs in Colombia disappoints most Gringos. Outside of Bogota, meeting women during the evening is very difficult. At night, girls will hit bars with their friends, often in mixed groups. Often, bars in Colombia are concentrated in large tables. Unlike bars in America, it is very difficult to approach in bars as most people are sitting. There are more western-style bars in Bogota, but for the most part Nigthgame is a bust in Colombia.
Choose your city wisely
Just a Rio de Janeiro does not represent all of Brazil, Medellin is not the epicenter of Colombian culture. Nevertheless, most Gringos will choose to stay in Medellin. In selecting your city consider the following pros and cons:
- The hottest women.
- Great weather.
- The best amenities (metro) of any Colombian city.
- The most touristy city.
- Becoming a backpacker haven.
- Girls have grown accustomed and even red of gringos.
- Higher Spanish levels.
- As the cultural educational and professional center of Colombia, it attracts interesting and beautiful women from all over the country.
- Nightlife is best in Bogota.
- The women are more wordily and less culturally insular.
- The most authentic Colombian city.
- Hot weather, year-round.
- Only second to Medellin in the beauty of the women.
- Best Salsa scene.
- The city is boring.
- There is not much to see in terms of day trips outside the city.
- It can be dangerous at night.
- Very few tourists.
- The women are very receptive.
- Low English levels
- The city is ugly and boring.
Setting Up Dates with Colombian Women
What worked best for me in Medellin was setting up a date at a coffee shop such as Juan Valdes or meeting for ice cream in one of the malls, close to my apartment.
Believe it or not, McDonald’s is also a decent spot for a first date during the day.
It is much nicer in Colombia than in the U.S. and an acceptable first date venue in Colombia. It is air-conditioned with good Wifi and has ice cream for 2 Mil.
Ice cream or coffee is my standard first date for meeting girls online. It is a very low investment on my end due to the low cost and proximity to my apartment. If I built up enough comfort, after one or two hours I invite the girl to my apartment for a drink or to listen to music. I am surprised at how many agree. Escalation is very easy at this point but does not always result in sex.
Also, your dates will go much more smoothly with a bit of Spanish. I recommend The Pimsleur Learning Program. It is the best way to get rolling with your conversational Spanish.
One of the consequences to be aware of while dating in Colombia is the high flake rate among Colombian women.
Dealing with Colombian Women and Flaking
This section is based on my experience with Colombian women from Medellin. Girls from Medellin “Paisas” are proud of their culture, music, food, and language. They seem to have even more local pride than national pride. They are mountain people and have an insular culture. They love their city and culture. Girls from Medellin always return to Medellin after living abroad.
Family and home are the cornerstones of their life.
Nothing is more safe, relaxing and meaningful for them. If looking for a wife, I suspect that a girl from Medellin would not do well living abroad. She would truly miss her city, family, and culture. The odds are good that she will return home.
There is a billboard in Medellin which translated says, “Let’s see what happens”. This personifies the Paisa culture. I learned that plans do not exist. Flaking is a cultural norm. I have been flaked on in Colombia too many times to count.
I recommend the following for dealing with flakes:
1. Adjust your Attitude
Don’t automatically “next her” because she flakes. This does not necessarily signify a lack of interest. Accept that there is a good chance she will be late or cancel. You are living in her country and dealing with her culture, not yours. Different rules and expectations apply.
I even found this to be true hanging out with my male Colombian friends. Setting up a time and place to meet is irrelevant because it will ultimately change. This is not personal but their way of living in the moment. Don’t take it personally.
One girl from online flaked on me 4 times. I stopped contacting her but would respond when she re-initiated contact with me. One Sunday she asked if we could meet in a few hours. I said I was relaxing at my pool and she was welcome to stop by. Sex happened within 1 hour of our first date. (note: I put had a few Skype session prior to meeting in person).
This example is to illustrate the flakiness of Medellin culture and how circumstances are ever-changing. Flaking does not always indicate a lack of interest.
Stay the course and go with the flow.
2. Line up 2 or 3 Dates at a Time
Online dating options are solid in Colombia. A man with an appealing online profile can easily set up multiple dates. Compared with Dominican women, Colombian women have busier schedules between work and school. It is not always possible to spread out dates.
The best way to proceed is to schedule a few dates for the same time with Colombian women.
If none of them cancel or are late (which is unlikely) proceed with the one you like most and reschedule the others. When rescheduling, make sure you reiterate your interest in seeing her.
Set something up for the following day with a specific time and location. Flaking is a cornerstone of Colombian culture, so you won’t be blowing your chance if you reschedule.
There’s a ton of ways to meet Colombian women during your time on the ground, so don’t sweat it if a few dates don’t work out.
3. Adopt a Flexible Mindset
Developing a flexible state of mind and “go with the flow” attitude are essential. Accept that plans are Fluid, not set in stone and are subject to change. If she was interested in meeting you in the first place, she will likely re-engage you. Pursue other girls and don’t be offended.
Adjusting your mindset involves the acceptance of Colombian women and their culture. You can’t change her culture. However, what you can do is demonstrate your value and develop a connection with the women. Developing a connection involves an understanding and acceptance of her culture. The adaptation of your mindset will pay dividends in the long-run.
Top cities that are off-the-radar for meeting Colombian women
The following is an in-depth review of two cities that are prime right now for dating Colombia women.
Dating Colombian women in Pereira
Pereira is one of the best second-tier cities in Colombia. It has been referred to “Little Medellin”. Pereira is one of the three cities that comprise the coffee region in Colombia. The other two cities are Manizales and Armenia. I have long heard whispers that the women Pereira rival their counterparts in Medellin. There are also rumors that the women are friendly and a foreigner’s exotic value is very high.
The city of Pereira is not nearly as nice as Medellin. The center is rundown and dangerous. The women are beautiful, friendly and open relatively easily. As with most cities in Colombia, meeting women is difficult at night. Daygame and Online dating are the best paths towards hooking up with local women. This city is for a great destination if you are hauled up in Cali or Medellin for a while. It also makes a great starting point for exploring the rest of the coffee region in Colombia.
Located about 3.5 hours from Medellin and 3 hours Cali, Pereira is a perfect city to hit if you are posted up in one of those cities. Buses from Medellin and Cali to Pereira should cost about $10 U.S. There are several buses departing daily, usually every 30 minutes, so no need to book a ticket in advance. A taxi from the central bus terminal will coast about 5k Pesos. There aren’t any direct flights to Pereira, you will most likely connect in Bogota if you arrive by plane.
Pereira appears much more run-down and more dangerous than Medellin. Exercise caution at night-don’t wear anything flashy and take taxi at night. There are numerous beggars and homeless in Pereira. Taxis are cheap and Uber works well.
Accommodations in Pereira
There are plenty of reasonably priced hotels to choose from. Staying close to Plaza Bolivar and Carrera 13 will put you right in the heart of the action.
The following are the best hotels in Pereira for location and price:
- Prime location close to the best nightclubs
- Best Hotel in Pereira
- Amenities: pool, bar, gym, and restaurant
- Guest friendly
- Solid location
- Free breakfast
- Guest Friendly
- Fair price
- Great service
Daytime activities in Pereira
- Cocora Valley National Park: located an hour outside the city, the park has amazing scenery and great for hiking.
- Salient: a charming little town that makes for a great day-trip.
- Termales de Santa Rosa: amazing natural scenery
Colombian women in Pereira
The quality of women is in fact high. The women look similar to the girls in Medellin. While the talent is quite solid, it ranks a bit below the women you will see in Medellin. Nevertheless, most men will be very happy with the long dark hair, curvy bodies and olive skin of the women.
Your status as a foreigner will go further than in Medellin, but not as far as you would think. Although not a tourist destination, the women of Pereira are not overly impressed with men from abroad. You will need to bring much more to the table than your passport to lock down a beautiful woman in Pereira
Nightlife in Pereira
Most of the best bars and clubs in Pereira are located on Carrera 13, about 2-5 blocks up the hill from Hotel Movich. It is pretty dead during the week, but Thursday, Friday and Saturday there will be solid talent out starting at about 10 p.m. Be sure to check out:
- Del Piero
- Tropical Cocktails
Nightlife in Pereira is not any different than most Colombian cities. People tend to sit out tables with their friends. Approaching solo or in a pairs is difficult. Fortunately, there are better options for meeting women in Pereira.
Daygame in Pereira
Meeting women during the day is fairly easy. Girls in Pereira are generally friendly and open up easily during the day. There are two locations that should be your goto venues for Daygame:
- Viktoria Mall
- Arboleda Park
If you stay at one of the two recommended hotels, you are within walking distance of these locations. The best time is 5 to 7 P.M. on the weekdays and on weekends.
Plaza Bolivar and the surrounding streets are other options. Although there is volume, the quality tends to be lower than the malls.
Manizales for meeting Colombian women
Manizales is one of the three cities within the coffee zone in Colombia. The other two cities are Pereira and Armenia. Manizales is high up in the mountains which makes for beautiful views and a perfect mountain climate. Noted for its pristine nature, Manizales has ranked in the top ten cities in the world for clean water. It is safe to drink tap water. Manizales is known to be slightly more affluent than the other cities in the coffee zone. It is noted to be safe and the local women have a reputation for being beautiful, all around Colombia.
With a population of only 300k people, Manizales is about half the size of Pereira. A bus ride from Pereira is about 1 hour and will cost about 11k Colombia Pesos. Buses depart from Pereira just about every 30 minutes. A bus ride from Medellin will take about 4 hours and 3 hours from Armenia.
The Bus Terminal in Manizales is located by the lower cable car station. The cable car can take you to the city center for about 2000 K Colombian Pesos. Espresso Bolivarian is one of the largest bus companies in Colombia. It is the best company for getting around Colombia by bus in my experience.
Manizales is known to be one of the best university cities in all of Colombia. There are numerous private and public universities. In fact, close to 25% of the population are students. You will seen students everywhere in Manizales.
Manizales has many advantages over the larger cities of Medellin, Bogota, and Cali. Your exotic factor will be much higher here. Manizales is a small, relatively isolated city, which does not receive a lot of tourism. The city is clean, safe and inexpensive. The women are friendly, beautiful and approachable. In the people in general are some of the most friendly hat you will encounter in Colombia.
Manizales is a great place to immerse yourself in traditional Colombian culture. The nightlife scene is respectable for a city of its size. Weekend evening are pumping starting at 10 p.m. The vibe is festive and social, typical of Colombian nightlife. However, it will be difficult to approach without having some local friends. Nevertheless, meeting women is easy during the day and online. Manizales will get boring after one week, but it is a great destination to visit for a long weekend.
Activities during the day in Manizales
Be sure to take advantage of the vast natural beauty of Manizales. Manizales is a mountainous region with breath-taking views. There are plenty of outdoor activities such as :
- Hiking at the volcano above the city,
- Coffee farm tours,
- Swimming at lower elevations below the city
Best time of the year to visit Manizales
La Feria de Manizales is one of the biggest festivals in Colombia during early January. There are plenty of events such as:
- Beauty pageants
- Sporting events
- And lots of parties
Manizales feel a bit like Europe, temperature-wise. The weather is warm and comfortable during the day and chilly at night, depending on how high the elevation is. You will feel like you are in the Swiss Alps with the fresh mountain air and gorgeous views.
Logistics and accommodations
The El Cable area is quite simply the only place to stay. This is the main center of the city where the best parties and local Colombian women will be gathered. Make sure you reserve a hotel in advance. Although Manizales does not receive a lot of tourism, the best hotels usually get sold out.
The following is the best hotel in Manizales for location, within walking distance of everything in El Cable:
Nightlife In Manizales
Nightlife is concentrated in El Cable. It is easy to walk to just about every bar in the area. Remember, nightlife in Colombia has a few considerations:
- Social circle is very important. Rolling solo is challenging.
- Groups of people sit at tables instead of the western-style bars in which people stand by the bar. This makes approaching difficult.
- The music is loud!
- You need to dance!
Make sure you hit the following night venues:
- Irish Bar
- Simon Dices
- Tres Maris
- La Plaza
Meeting Colombian women during the day in Manizales
As for meeting women during the day, it fairly straightforward: El Cable Mall will have the most volume and quality during the day. There are plenty of places to eat.
The mall is smaller than most malls in Bogota, Cali, and Colombia, but it is the center for meeting women during the day.
Closing thoughts on Colombian women
The women of Colombia enrapture us with their beauty and femininity. For success with high-quality women, we need to adapt our mindset and Game.
A large part of this process is to understand the unique nuances of Colombian culture. Colombian women are proud of their culture. Speaking Spanish and demonstrating interest and an understanding of their culture will go a long way in setting you apart from the typical Gringo tourist.
With a little bit of preparation and a flexible mindset, Colombian women will be a delight.
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