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Russian Women: 20 Essential Dating Tips (2019)

by The Masculine Traveler
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Russian women, culture, history, and even politics – all mysterious and present somewhat of an unknown feeling to the Western mind. Despite being among the most famous women in the world, they continue to remain enigmatic. Russian women allure us with their beauty, grace, and feminine nature. My experience with the local devushkas has been some of the most rewarding experiences and fulfilling relationships of my life.

Russia has long been of interest to me. Growing up in the United States, the Soviet Union was the “Evil Empire” according to President Reagan. This characterization of Russia has persisted to the present day. From this American perspective, I never thought that I would end up spending so much time in this mysterious country. So much has been written on the subject of Russian women, but so few men have the opportunity to immerse themselves in the dating culture in Russia.

The old adage, “women are women” holds merit, but there are some important differences between Russian women and their Western counterparts. These differences make dating a Russian woman a completely unique experience. Some men are able to get “their foot in the door” with a high-quality Russian woman, but fail to keep her. This guide is written from the perspective of years spent living in Russia. This unique vantage point of living, working, and maintaining relationships with Russian women will be the most valuable resource for securing Russian women on the web.

Before we delve into the essential dating tips, let’s commence our discussion on the looks and personality traits of Russian women, as well as, what you can expect in terms of competition and their attitudes on sex. The pandemic has thrown a lot of the traditional dating rules out the window but there are still many that remain the same.



The looks of Russian women

The unique combination of Slavic genes mixed with the greater parts of Asia has produced the most beautiful women in the world. This writer has traveled all over the world, and Russian women are hands down the most elegant, feminine and naturally beautiful. Their exquisite facial construction combined with elegant, slender bodies are sights to behold. Their fair, clear skin and light-colored eyes are mesmerizing. If their natural beauty wasn’t enough, Russian girls have mastered the art of perfectly complimenting their beauty with feminine dispositions with elegant fashion.

The looks of Russian women can vary greatly depending on the geographic origin from where they were born. Due to massive relocation during the Soviet period, and mixing of ethnicities upon former USSR republics, a great variation has come to be with the looks of these women.

The following is a rough guide based on the region on what to expect of Russian women from each of these different areas:


The Caucasus

Women from the cities of Vladikavkaz, Grozny, Makhachkala and even in some cases Krasnodar tend to come from a Muslim background, which is almost an entirely different culture from what you will find in other parts of Russia.

These women tend to have darker features, with black hair and darker eye colors with less slender body types then you will find for example of women in Eastern Russia.



The women of Tartarstan, and specifically Kazan, again have much darker features on average with a look arguably that is the most unique from the women of Russia. Jet black hair, an Asiatic face and often times more European features are common in Kazan.

Originating as a Turkic-speaking population, Tartar women are predominately Russian speaking but also have their own language -the Tartar language.

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The Far North and South

The women in these regions tend to have a mix of Asian characteristics in their look. Many women come from a mixed background with one parent being of Russian origin, and the other coming from one of the Stan countries. This is especially true in the regions of Russia which border directly with Kazakhstan and Mongolia.

Long dark hair, dark eyes and slender bodies are a common sight of women from the cities of Orenburg, Chelyabinsk, Omsk, Volgograd and other smaller bordering cities.


Moscow & St. Petersburg

The two most populated Russian cities have a very solid mix of women from all over Russian. In these two cities, you will find women from all parts of Russia, and that’s why these are always a solid base to start out with to see what you like. Russian women from all over the country come to both work and study in these two cities, as they have the best universities in Russia, and Moscow is the backbone of the Russian economy and where all of the countries business takes place.


The personalities of Russian women

Russian women are highly intelligent and inquisitive about the world. Not only beautiful but being smart in Russia is a survival skill, even for women. Younger Russian women today are committed to their studies and advancing themselves socially and economically. It is now common for younger Russian women to speak a few languages. English levels have been traditionally low, but times are changing.

One thing has always impressed me about Russian women. They are the most cultured in the world. This is not an understatement. In addition to their commitment to education, Russian girls tend to develop a deep appreciation for literature, fine art, and the performing arts. Most of them will have developed a passion for one of these beloved cultural pursuits. Not only is it their passion, but they attain very high levels of advancement in their “hobby”.  Her hobby becomes an extension of herself and part of her identity.

Through their advanced intelligence and cultural understanding, Russian women are highly introspective. They have an honest appraisal of themselves, including their deficits. They are also able to apply this mastery of analysis to others. Russian women are highly adept at reading the personalities traits and intentions of men. They have an eye for bullshit and can weed out conmen. They appreciate straight-forward talking and directness.


Attitudes on sex

Although Russia is still a conservative country, attitudes on sex are more liberal than I originally anticipated. Despite living in a patriarchal society, Russian women have sexual freedom. However, their behavior is not without reproach. They tend to keep their sexual lives private, even from close girlfriends. Russians tend to be very judgmental. They frown on women who are too loose sexually. This is one of the reasons that renting a private apartment is so important. Unless you are in a serious relationship, a Russian girl will not invite you to their home, even if she lives alone.

They are concerned with what their neighbors will think, literally. As with most countries, prostitution has its place in Russian society. However, unlike places like Germany, where sex workers are in your face in the form of strip clubs and brothels, prostitution is kept under wraps. In fact, it is even hard to find a strip club in Russian unless you have local male connections to take you.

Russian women are well aware of their reputation abroad as sexual objects. There are countless stories of women flying to the Middle East to exchange sexual favors for money. Normal Russian women will compartmentalize their sexual life and take precautions on being perceived as a whore. It is important for men to respect their need for discretion and to treat them like ladies. In turn, a Russian girl will treat you like a gentleman and will in fact, reward you for chivalry. Quite a departure from western dating.

Related to sexual norms in Russia, many men are curious about acceptable age differences. In observing Russian couples, most are in fact similar in age. A ten year age difference is certainly acceptable and is often common among wealthy Russian men who are on their second marriage.

For foreign men, a larger age difference is acceptable. This is often attributed to the fact that Russian men often look older than their age. Poor nutrition, harsh living conditions, and dependency on alcohol contribute to the advanced aging process in men. Western men are generally in better shape and look younger than their same age Russian counterparts. A good rule of thumb is as long as you look younger than her father, she will accept you as a potential mate.

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The best way to meet Russian women (especially if your Russian is rusty)

Every guy wants to know the absolute easiest ways to meet a lot of single Russian women. I’ve tried out plenty of different things and consistently found that online dating is impossible to beat, especially if you’re not fluent in Russian. Many Russian women speak English to some degree but a lot of them are afraid to speak it publicly to strange men they don’t know. Online dating is totally different.

Many more women are willing to start a conversation online when they have a chance to really think about what they’re going to say in English. It’s a great way to break the ice and meet a lot of girls quickly. There are a couple of options that you need to start out with if you’re looking for women in Russia or Russian women in your hometown:

Guys that just want to keep it casual and have some fun in bed should use Adult FriendFinder

When it comes to meeting girls that aren’t looking for anything committed Adult FriendFinder has been my favorite across many different countries. It’s the largest app like this around with over 70 million active members and tends to be the most popular with girls in cities that have any kind of English-speaking population. I’ve had a lot of success using it and have seen a lot of “normal guys” do really well with it as well.

The women using it are ONLY on it for something casual so it’s a pretty easy experience. The major downside is that if you’re looking for an actual relationship it’s not a great option. Check out their free trial and see what we mean. It’s worked all over the world for me so I’m confident it will deliver for most guys.

Russian Cupid is great for guys that WANT a relationship

A lot of guys out there are tired of meaningless flings and want to find someone to settle down with. For that, Russian Cupid is going to be your best option. It’s really popular and most of the girls using it are going to be VERY relationship-focused.

In fact, it’s often the site is used by Russian women who are specifically looking for foreign men for a relationship or marriage.

Tinder has become popular in Russia. In fact, Tinder spent a large amount of advertising its service during the World Cup. Tinder may give you a lot of Matches. But most of these Matches will be false leads and women just looking for an ego boost. Many Russian women use tinder to boost their followers on Instagram. If you are a young guy, give Tinder a shot. However, we recommend Russian Cupid especially for:

  • Older men
  • Men who don’t have a great track record with Tinder in general
  • Men who are more relationship-minded

My experience with Russian Cupid

I have a long-standing history using Russian Cupid. I first started using Russian Cupid about 6 years ago when I was based in the United States. A friend of mine actually met his wife on this dating site, recommended it. To this day, they have a solid marriage and seem happy together. The first women I met was actually living in the same city as me in the States.  Beautiful, mid-20s, and intelligent, I was in disbelief that I ended up with such a quality woman from a dating site. After our breakup I began using Russian Cupid when I was traveling throughout Russia and Eastern Europe. I have had the good fortune of meeting some amazing women in this site. In addition to Russian women, I have met and dated women from Belarus, Ukraine, Romania, and countries in the Baltics with Russian Cupid. Having spent considerable time living in this part of the world, Russian Cupid is the best site out there for meeting quality Russian women who are seeking foreigners for a long-term relationship.

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A word on competition

Before we move forward with the essential dating tips for seducing Russian women, an examination of the competition in Russia is important. The following sections will detail what you can expect once you hit the ground in Russia, in terms of local competition and the effect of the World Cup. As a prelude to this discussion, it is vital to emphasize that, unlike other countries, your biggest struggle with Russian women will be proving your manhood. Unlike Ukraine, where the foreign presence is fierce, Russia does not receive the same kind of “love tourism”.

Most men traveling to Russia are either in the country for a short tourist trip or on business. In a city like Moscow, it is astonishing at how few foreign men frequent clubs and bars. There simply are not many men who are able to negotiate legitimate long-term stays, nor have the desire to post up in such as inhospitable climate and unfamiliar culture.

While competition from other men is a factor, the biggest competition is demonstrating your masculine strength to Russian women. Winning their hearts and minds through dominance is the ultimate challenge for men.



Dating Tips for Russian women

1. Fortune favors the bold

Russian women respond well to a direct style of game. This holds true for the initial approach and also throughout the dating process. Women respect men who are strong, self-assertive, and confident in their intentions. There’s simply no room in Russian culture for a weak man, and if you fall in this category, you need to re-think your strategy if you’re planning a trip to game the local women.

While it’s true that most women admire these qualities in a man, Russian women place a high priority on the man who is bold and confident with his actions.

Some aspects of western-style game work well, and those include humor, banter, and a little bit of teasing.

Ultimately, you can be much more direct with Russian women than you can with Western women. Simple expressions of interest work well, and there’s no point in beating around the bush or hiding your intentions that you are a sexual, masculine man.

This should not be confused with sexualizing the conversation early on. Russian girls are cognizant that they are the envy of men. This is well established. There is no need to provide them with any more sexual marketplace value. There is a fine line in expressing sexual intent without expressing it verbally early on. This can be accomplished in the following ways:

  • Asking if she has a boyfriend is perfectly acceptable and not considered needy. This signals that you have a romantic interest and you are defining the parameters of your interaction.
  • Display strong masculine body language: Russian women are highly perceptive and have an eye for detail. They are cunning in sniffing out male weakness. Displaying strength through posture, eye contact, and your vocal tone is essential. More on this to come.
  • If she questions your intentions with her, simply state, “I am a man and I am interested in you as a woman”. S he will understand your intentions with simple, direct statements as such.

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2. Let your intentions be known

There is nothing wrong with expressing your intentions that you find her beautiful as a woman and value her mind.

Russian beauty is world-famous, but it is important to express that you value her other attributes as well, such as her intelligence or artistic achievements.

Russian women work hard to be well-rounded human beings and they openly acknowledge and welcome sincere appreciation of them.

You will not lose points for this like you would in the West.

In America, we need to work hard to show a girl how little we care for them. American women despise strong interest from a man; it considered weak. Conversely, Russian women feel honored to be the desire of affection from a strong, high-quality man. They relish in being the object of desire and the feeling of being pursued.

Russian women have a strong desire to be pursued. Unlike American girls, you will not turn them off by your advances. Sometimes Russian women seem flaky; however, much less than Colombian women. The reasons they flake are different. Flaking in Colombia is engrained in their culture with the essential element that time is fluid. Russian women sometimes flake because they feel as though the man is not pursuing them hard enough. Western men are conditioned to ease off the gas pedal. However, in dating Russian women, you should consistently demonstrate your interest through words and actions. Actions take the form of setting up specific plans for a date with a time and act location. Russian women want to feel that you put thought and effort into seeing them.

Russian culture is centered around being direct. Life in Russia is too short for dancing around issues. Russian women will let you know if they are not interested. If they continue to message you but seem flaky, it is game on until you hear from them otherwise.

Pro Tip: Once you set a date. Do not alter the time or location unless completely necessary. Russian women take this as a sign of weakness in men. In their mind, a man should always follow through on his plans. A man’s word should be gold. This expectation is unrealistic. Nevertheless, men should follow through on his intentions and not deviate in his commitments, no matter how inconsequential it may seem. This minor point is salient and took this writer a long time to recognize.


3. Lead the interaction

Perhaps nothing signals more to a Russian girl that she is in the presence of a strong, high-status man than when he leads her. Men and women in Russia have different gender roles when compared with their counterparts in the West.

Men lead and women trust in his masculinity. Russian women feel more feminine when they don’t have to worry about making decisions on where to have dinner. They use that part of their brain all day at work or school. When with her man, the Russian woman wants to submit to his strength and leadership.

Leading the interaction is much more important than scoring a home run with a certain venue selection.

You will have no success either online if you don’t lead the interaction, or reach out to her first.

She will trust much more in our masculinity if you made the decision without hesitation and reassure her that she will enjoy the evening.

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4. Always pay for the date

This one simply goes without exception during your time in Russia.

It will serve you well to understand Russian culture and the dynamics between men and women. Paying for dates is not a sign of weakness, but it is to the Russian girl if a man is not able to simply pay for coffee or dinner.

This cultural factor is ingrained in male-female dynamics and it is one you should accept. 

Make it simple: Pay for the date. If she offers to pay, move on to someone else. She isn’t interested in you romantically as a man.

There’s no other way to get around this, and you shouldn’t even attempt it. It will only hurt you.

Russian Women & 12 Dating Tips (2019)


5. Body language is extremely important

I believe a woman’s interest can be determined by eye contact.  I have not experienced the “cold Russian second”.

Eye contact is the most salient extension of our body language.

Our eyes are said to be the pathways to the soul. It will be the first point of contact that a woman sees. Maintaining strong eye contact and confident body language is the most powerful way a man can express to a Russian woman that he is a high-value man, worth her investment.

Weak body language will not allow you to go far in Russia, and you must always be exuberant and strong body language that shows your dominance as a masculine male.


6. Use Instagram to seduce Russian women

Russian women have a preoccupation with status and wealth. Russia has a tumultuous history marked by war, oppression, and chaos. It is common for Russian women to tell stories about how their grandparents starved during dark times in the Soviet Union. All of these hardships helped to create a society fixated on improving their quality of life.

Creating an interesting social media presence is one way to illustrate your value as a man. Russian girls have plunged into the Instagram madness abyss at full speed. They invest significant amounts of time perfecting their online personas by posting perfectly photoshopped pictures.

With such an investment in social media, Russian women respond well to a man with a quality Instagram. There is a common theory that the more followers one has, the higher his perceived social value. While this philosophy has merit, we argue that it is more important to have quality photos on Instagram that highlight you as a fun, well-traveled, interesting man.

While this is all highly superficial, we must come to the acceptance that this is part of modern living. Furthermore, social media facilitates the process of attracting women, particularly those from Russia.

We also recommend that you take the time to post Instagram “Stories”. Russian girls spend a lot of time posting Stories and viewing them. Posting videos and pictures of yourself doing the following can capture her attention:

  • A work-out at the gym
  • Dinner at an upscale restaurant
  • Wearing stylish clothing
  • On holiday at an exotic location


7. Improve yourself

Recognize that times have changed. Gone are the times where Russian men are toothless, alcoholic trolls. Young Russian men have significantly improved their appearance, fitness, and Game. Russian men have recognized that their women were seeking higher quality men in foreign lands. The younger generation of Russian men are looking cooler, more stylish, and athletic. Consequently, Russian women have more dating options with local men than before.

In addition to higher quality Russian men, the women of Russia are traveling more and more. They have an utter fascination with everything Italian. If you ask a Russian girl where her dream place to live is, they almost all say Italy. A second aspirational country is Spain.

Russian women seem to be putting a significant portion of their disposable income towards traveling. They have much more exposure to high-value foreign men than before. Those who aren’t traveling had exposure to men from all over the world when Russia hosted the World Cup in the summer of 2018.

Foreign men need to out-pace the local competition in order to give Russian girls a strong reason to date them. Russian women historically placed a priority on the financial means of men. This preference persists, but Russian girls are starting to consider looks an important trait in men. These trends highlight the need for men to be the best version of themselves in order to attract quality Russian women.

The World Cup of 2018 exposed Russian women to men from all over the world. For the women who are not well-traveled, it was their first opportunity to interact with foreign men. The coverage of the “World Cup Effect” on the women of Russia is mixed. Some sources proclaim that the women were running wild with foreigners.

Anecdotally many women have told me that they grew tired of the chaos it caused in their country and welcomed the mass exit of tourism at the conclusion of the event. From my vantage point, the World Cup had a minor effect on some Russian women, as it opened their eyes to a wider world. This effect was mostly observed in women who had not had a foreign boyfriend before. Life eventually resumed its normal course in Russia and there is little talk of the World Cup, presently.


8. Select the right city

There is a conception out there that to meet special women in Russia, you need to travel to smaller cities. There are tales of extreme female to male ratios at nightclubs in Siberia, for example. Russia is a large country that offers copious opportunities to meet Russian women in faraway lands. For seasoned Russian vets, venturing out into wider Russia is a promising prospect. It is true that your exotic value will be higher. However, we only recommend such travel for those who have experience with traveling in Russian, speak the language and have local contacts. For the first-time Russia-goers, there are plenty of opportunities to meet beautiful Russian girls in Moscow and St. Petersburg. These cities will have a mix of natives to their respective cities, as well as Russian women who originate from all corners of the country. Get your feet wet first. Master the tier-one cities before venturing east.

For some men, traveling to Russia is daunting. Due to the difficult visa, a challenging language, and high costs, traveling to Russia is not feasible for all. While we maintain that Moscow and St. Petersburg are a newbie’s best starting points for meeting Russian women, there are alternatives. Over the past 5 years, Russian women have exponentially increased their travel. They love all things European. The following countries are currently their favorites:

Russian women are flocking to these countries in droves, and not always with a boyfriend or sponsor. They do not have the same mindset as westerns for saving their hard-earned money for retirement. A Russian girl spends just about all her money on looking her best and travel.

Behind Europe, Asia is the next most popular destination for Russian women. Phuket, for example, will seem like “little Russia”. They are also currently keen on visiting Bali, Singapore and Vietnam in the cold winter months. Closer to the motherland, Cyprus, Georgia, and The United Arab Emirates are very popular as destinations.

These destinations provide an alternative to meeting Russian girls if one cannot visit the homeland.


9. Secure proper accommodations

A private apartment without a roommate, in the center of the city, is the ideal accommodation. In Moscow for example, be sure to rent an apartment in the “first ring”. Most girls will live outside the center with a roommate or her family. Russian girls will always travel to the center of the city to meet you for a date. Due to efficient metro systems in Moscow, girls will meet you just about anywhere in the center. Moscow is an expensive city, so if you cannot afford to line up proper logistics, it probably isn’t the best city for you.

Pro Tip: Cash is king in Russia. Always negotiate a cash payment for long-term stays on AirBnB.


10. Approach with dominance

In addition to online dating, meeting women through nightlife and day game are viable methods. Nightlife in Moscow is almost exclusively regulated to Friday and Saturday nights with a few select venues for Wednesday and Thursdays. Most Russian women to not hit clubs that often. Even self-described club girls will only go out once or twice per month. The girls who are out are usually looking to meet men. Karaoke bars and restaurants are venues that they frequent to spend time with their girlfriends. Nightclubs on the other hand, are for to meeting men.

Outside of social circle, Daygame is the best method for meeting high-quality women. Street approaches, malls, cafes, and she shops are all solid places to approach. A direct style of Daygame works well if you are able to exude dominance, confidence, and security in your intentions.

Displaying dominance is the most important trait in cold-approaching. It is interesting to note that Russian women give their phone number our quite easily. Men should not count their chickens before they hatch. This is just the first step in the seduction process. Many women actually give out their phone number even f they have a boyfriend. They are often swayed by the novelty of the approach even if they aren’t interested in proceeding. Displaying dominance is the only trait that can turn a “maybe girl” in a “yes girl”.


11. Be neutral when discussing Russian women

It is well established that women from Russia are beautiful and feminine. Nobody knows it more than Russian girls. Be cautious not to praise the beauty of Russians. Remain neutral when the topic comes up. Russian women are fond of asking foreigners about their options on women. They also ask many questions about American women. It is important not to emphasize the beauty of the women in Russia and not be too negative on the girls from your home country.

Men should not express their contempt for western women. This will create the perception of being unsuccessful with women in their home country. Russian women are well aware that western women strive for independence from men. They openly assert the foolishness of such women. Resist the urge to collude in the criticism of western women. Instead, state your preference for feminine women, but acknowledge that there are many attractive women in your home country.


12. Display your knowledge of Russian history and culture

Russian women are among the most cultured and sophisticated that I have come across. Education is taken seriously in Russia. Many women are avid readers and well versed with the classics. While you don’t need to give a discourse on Tolstoy, being able to cite a few Russian classic books, authors and poets will go a long way.

The performing arts is another area that Russians excel in. They are truly proud of their long-standing reputations for excellence in theatre, ballet, and opera. Growing up, girls often play a music instrument, sing, dance, or write poetry. Attending a performance is considered high culture and is strongly tied with the Russian collective sense of self. Even a simple suggestion to check out a Museum will help you connect with them about Russian culture and history.

Read up on Russia’s fascinating history. Knowing a few key historical leaders will impress Russian women. They have an impression, that the rest of the world lacks interest in their history. Displaying knowledge in Russian history will demonstrate your worldliness and will impress her.


13. Strongly consider learning Russian

Nothing will help you connect with Russian women than learning their language. Russian women love to express their thoughts and emotions to men. They become frustrated if they do not have enough English ability to fully express themselves. While English levels are improving in Russia, they are still low compared with European countries.

If you are visiting Russia for a few weeks, then a full-on commitment to learning Russian is probably not worth the effort. However, even on a short stay, being able to say some keywords and phrases will greatly improve your experience. Russian women will also find your broken Russian cute and endearing.

If you plan to stay in Russian long-term, it is strongly recommended to commit to learning Russian. This language ability will open doors to Russian women like nothing else.

Pro tip: German and Spanish are languages that a lot of University students are learning now in Russia. If you can speak either of these languages, make sure you ask what language girls speak besides Russian and English. These two languages are picking up steam and becoming popular.

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14. Accept materialism in Russian culture

The reputation for materialism is long-standing in Russian culture. Too often men do not understand how to reconcile the fact that Russian women place a priority on materialism. For the record, not all women are gold-diggers in Russia. There are several factors that contribute to successful seduction in Russia. Displaying that you are a man of means is one of them. It is naive to ignore that Russian women place importance on elevating their status in life.

It is important to keep in mind how the post-Soviet Union economic fall has influenced modern women in Russia. The economic crisis in Russia directly affected the parents of Russian women who are in their 20’s now. They are likely to have even spent their formative years in economic uncertainty and hardship. As a consequence, Russian women place a premium on attaining security. They astutely recognize that their highest probability for elevating their standing is through a man. Men must accept that Russian women know their value to foreign men will prioritize a man’s resources in evaluating his suitability as a partner.

This does not mean that a man should flash fancy watches and seek to impress with wealth. There are many ways to the heart of a Russian woman. Russian women want a man who has vision, goals and drive. They seek men who have the guts and determination to continue marching forward in life with a purpose. Nothing else will signal to a Russian woman that he is subtle for a long-term relationship.


15. Understand the biological hierarchy

Russia has not yet succumbed to the politically correct culture of the United States. Russians believe in biological hierarchies. Race and ethnicity in a large part will determine your value as a potential mate. Russians are xenophobic. Evidence of their belief in the supremacy of white, European descent can be observed in their strict control of immigration.

The Russian government will allow certain workers into the country to fulfill lower-level jobs. However, many of the people from Tajikistan, for example, will never be fully accepted into Russian life. In Moscow, many men and women from the Caucasus to work as taxi drivers, construction helpers, maintenance workers and in beauty salons. They provide valuable services but are considered inferior to true Russian people.

In addition to the Caucasus, men from Central Asia (the Former Soviet Union) in countries like Kazakhstan are viewed as inferior by Russian women. With the exception of Ukraine and Belarus, most of the nations of the former Soviet Union are not viewed favorably. The past dominion by Russia as well as the racial differences factors into Russian feeling superior to the citizens of these lands. However, they feel a kinship with Ukrainians and Belarusians. In fact, they are viewed on equal terms based on their shared, culture, language and genetic dispositions.

With respect to the sexual marketplace, a Russian woman has a strong preference for dating the following men:

  • Russian men who are worldly, successful and serve as providers.
  • White men from Western Europe and the United States. Recent trends indicate that there is a strong preference for Italian, Spanish and greek men. The language, cultures, and tourism to southern Europe is highly appealing for the modern Russian woman.

These two broad groups of men occupy the top spots in the social hierarchy in Russia. Men of African and Asian descent will struggle to demonstrate their value in Russia. It is fairly common for some Russian women to use the “N-word”, without realizing the significance. As with countries like Norway, Indian, Turkish and Middlemen are not ruled out by the women. Men from these regions will have an easier time transcending cultural stereotypes in Russian than in Ukraine, for instance.

A great litmus test for your perceived value with Russian girls, is messaging them on Russian Cupid. The women on Russian Cupid are mostly looking for long-term relationships and marriage with foreign men. Your response on this dating site will provide you with valuable information on how well you will be received in the dating market in Russia.  Think of it as a trial run before you spend the time and money on a trip to Russia.

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16. Display what kind of man you are

As men, we categorize women into different roles they fulfill in our lives. Even the least experienced of player understands women are either suited for long-term relationships or just for casual flings. Men generally have a very black and white classification for how women fit into their world. Russian women are very adept at making similar determinations about men.

Russian culture is highly judgmental. As a survival skill, Russians will very quickly make a judgment on the kind of person you are and how you will bring value to their life, or not. Russian women classify men into the following categories:


  • Lovers: Being romantics at heart and influenced by classic literature, Russian girls have a strong desire for romantic, divine love. Certain high-value men are selected who will satiate their desire for romance, sexual gratification, excitement, and adventure. It is important to note that there can be some overlap in these groups, but they are often mutually exclusive.


  • Providers: Sponsorship in Russia long predates the sugar baby craze. After the fall of the Soviet Union, many Russian women developed an acute skill for finding and solidifying a male provider. In many cases, Russian women do not draw distinctions between a provider and a husband. Husbands are naturally expected to support their wives and family unquestionable through financial resources. They of course, are also expected to be the rock for women emotionally as well. The old adage, “your money is ours, and my money is mine” plays out ubiquitously in Russia.


  • Friends: Russian women maintain male friendships. They seem to make early determinations of whether they will ever sleep with a man. Many western men unknowingly are regulated to the role of a friend. Russian women extract value from male friends through companionship, social connections, and practicing English with foreigners. This is yet just another reason to be direct with a Russian woman you are interested in. Define the parameters of your interaction from the start and be clear with your intentions. Unlike the West, men do not lose points for asking a woman if she has a boyfriend and being clear that you have an interest in her as a woman. Use these words and she will understand your intentions. If she is not interested in you as a man, she will inform you quickly. Respect for Russian women in being decisive in their classification of men.


As with all groups of women, once you are viewed as a particular type, it is difficult to change categories. If you end up in the “friend zone”, tell her directly that you are interested in her as a woman. She will respect your intention even if your overture is not reciprocated. Most men strive to enter the Lover category. A solid litmus test for gauging your role in her eyes is how long it takes for her to have sex with you. In my experience, sex that occurs on the first or second date is a strong indication that you have achieved lover status. The longer it takes for intimacy, the higher the probability is that she views you as a potential provider.

There are a few other indications that will help a man determine which category he has been assigned to.


  • The words, “I Love You”. Most Russian women only use these words with one or two men in their entire lifetime. Needless to say, if you hear these words from a Russian girl it is a supreme indication that you are viewed as a lover. Unlike Latinas, who use the words, “Amor” and “Te Queiro” to express their affection often, Russian women only use these words to demonstrate long-lasting love.


  • She texts you every day: Russian women when feeling romantic love, wish to keep constant contact with her lover throughout the day. Men cannot demonstrate his affections enough when a Russian girl is interested. There is really no such thing as smothering a Russian girl when she has a sincere interest in you.


  • She sleeps at your place: Spending the night at a gentleman place for a Russian girl is a strong sign that she wishes to engage in a long-term relationship. This is also evidence that she views you as a lover and not solely as someone who is meeting her financial expectations.


17. Do something special for the holidays

While intelligent and cerebral, a Russian woman is also a romantic at heart. Influenced by famous Russian Literature and poetry, romance is at the heart of every love story for a Russian girl. Their romantic nature is expressed through the importance they place on holidays. It is important to understand that in Russia, New Year’s Eve is much more important than Christmas.

Russian girls plan in advance how they will spend this important holiday. It usually involves a combination of family time and sharing the occasion with her boyfriend or close friends. Other important holidays in Russia are:

  • Victory Day (Commemorating the end of World War 2 and Russia’s enormous sacrifice)
  • Women’s Day
  • Valentine’s Day (Recently developing as an important say in Russia)

All of these holidays are cause to do something special for your Russian girlfriend. Small gifts such as flowers and chocolates will be well received, if not expected.


18. Be realistic in your selection of a girlfriend

Striving for the most beautiful woman you can attain is a fool’s pursuit. There is symmetry with respect to dating Russian women. A Russian woman’s power is in her beauty. Her youth and beauty are her ticket towards advancement in the quality of life. The more beautiful she is, the more suitors she will have competing for her affection.

Most men make the mistake of pursuing relationships with women that they cannot maintain. Maintaining a beautiful Russian woman will require that you provide her with something commensurate with her beauty. If she is in the 8 plus range, you better excel in one of the following areas:

  • Financial means
  • Social standing
  • Looks

Russian women are acutely aware of what they offer to men. In long-term partners, they seek something in return, and on the same scale as to which they provide. There are plenty of above-average-looking women who will require less maintenance and effort over the long term. The looks of these women will also be much higher than what most men attain in their homes countries. Men who are looking for long-term relationships should focus on securing a woman that they can provide equal value in return.

We have all heard the tales of Russian women who once legal citizenship is attained in a more desirable country through marriage, leave their husband for someone else. These men made one for more of the following mistakes:

  • They did not have enough experience overall with women.
  • They were not high-valued enough to provide a reason for her to stay.
  • They were not mentally or emotionally strong enough.
  • They married too quickly and did not conduct a thorough vetting.

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19. Proceed with caution in marriage

Marrying a Russian woman is a fantasy that many western men share. The idea of a caring, nurturing, beautiful woman is alluring for many disillusioned men. The reality of Russian women as wives is more complex. Without question, Russian women take the role of parenting very seriously. All Russian women aspire to be devoted mothers.

They will sacrifice and live for their children with divine dedication. As a consequence, husbands usually play second fiddle to children. As earlier noted, husbands are expected to bear the financial and emotional burdens of the family. Men need unwavering fortitude to attain the lofty expectations placed upon them.

One of the big secrets in Russian society is infidelity. In Moscow for example, divorce rates are sky high and cheating is rampant. Russian women will look outside their marriage to fulfill their needs. Many western men fail to live up to these high expectations. Conducting a thorough assessment of your own strengths and weaknesses is essential in determining in you will be up for the task in the long haul. Strong men with a clear purpose in life and unwilling self-confidence will demonstrate to a Russian woman that he is a viable candidate to seek her affection for years to come.

Pro Tip: Most Russian women do not use birth control unless they are in a long-term relationship. The cost of the “Pill” is high in Russia and women will only use it if they are in a monogamous relationship. Even when they use birth control, it seems to be on a short-term basis, and in a concerted effort to delay having children with their partner until the optimal time.

Similar to most women, their insistence on condom use varies from woman to woman. Men who do not plan to be fathers should exercise caution in unprotected sex as Russian women do not believe in abortion.


Closing thoughts on Russian women

Russian women are said to be an enigma, but they certainly can be cracked. Their exotic beauty and mysterious nature render them the most sought-after women in the world. Their beauty cannot be contested. However, they are very different than then westerner women. Based on logic, one would surmise they are a mix of European and Asian cultures.

In fact, Russian women are simply Russian. They are influenced by unique cultural, economic, and historical factors. They are truly in a class by themselves. A close comparison would be their cousins, Ukrainian women. However, with respect to  International dating, they are certainly in a class by themselves.

Following the above essential dating will certainly pay dividends in seducing Russian women. All worthwhile endeavors in life come with a price. Russian women are not easily understood. Their multifaceted culture and turbulent history have shaped their personalities uniquely. Successfully attracting high-quality Russian women, is not for the faint of heart.

As we documented in this article, there are several complex factors at play, which will influence your success. Certainly, there are easier women in the world, when it comes to seduction. However, Russian women on all levels represent the cream of the crop.

If you have been reading carefully, there are a few themes that are emphasized over and over. Russian women respond to the demonstration of strength, leadership, and directness. Unfortunately, their expectations for men are unattainable and unrealistic for most. Nevertheless, a man cannot afford to let his guard down if he wants to secure the highest of quality, both physically and personally.

He needs to display a mastery of his environment, vision, and masculine strength, consistently. Most western men due to their upbringing and the current influence of feminist ideology are simply not up for the task. The men who are will experience a fulfillment like with no other group of women in the world.

At 7500 words, I confidently assert that this is the most robust guide to seducing Russian women. It is written from years of trial and error dating experiences in Russia. Each of these 19 tips were carefully selected to provide our readers with a realistic and honest blueprint for what is required for optimal success with Russian women.

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Ricardo February 22, 2019 - 10:56 AM

Superb comrade. The gold standard for understanding Russian women.

TMT February 22, 2019 - 11:02 AM

Thank you. Glad you enjoyed the article. Cheers

Masha February 22, 2019 - 10:58 AM

I am a Russian woman. I don’t like how men objectify girls, but you make nice comments about us.

TMT February 22, 2019 - 11:00 AM

Thanks Masha, Cheers

Eric February 23, 2019 - 8:58 AM

Great article. Russian women are the best. I have been to Russia before, where would yo suggest besides St. Petersburg and Moscow?

TMT February 23, 2019 - 9:08 AM


If you are feeing more adventurous, check out Kazan and Sochi. After than you should be ready for Siberia. You will need solid Russian skills in Siberia, especially without a local contact. Good luck

Jerry February 23, 2019 - 4:13 PM

Hi Do Russian girls still travel to Turkey. Im Turkish but live in London. I plan to go back to Turkey in the summer and want to nice girls there

TMT February 23, 2019 - 4:32 PM

Yes they still go because it is convenient and cheap. Feel free to update us on how you make out this summer. Cheers

Vlad March 3, 2019 - 10:11 AM

As a Russian guy, I agree with most of your points. Some guys got jealous during the World Cup but it really wasn’t a big deal.

James February 9, 2020 - 1:43 PM

Did you date all woman across the age spectrum? Younger woman are just like any place in the world I guess. Older Russian woman expect flowers min 2000 roubles dinner for 2 – 5000 roubles taxi’s – 1000 roubles because woman over 35 will not be seen dead in the metro, drinks at a club 3000. I night out in Moscow is a minimum of $150 dollars, and it is expected everytime do not think the next date you will arrive without flowers or go to a coffee shop, no no, no. I assume you have an American passport if you are American or British they pretend to want you but they really want to go and live abroad. Given most of the women I dated were from Tinder, because it is impossible to walk up to a woman and start making small talk. Russian woman on the first date told me I should have asked her what colour flowers she wanted. Another one said she did not like roses. Another fat one suggested I lose a few kilograms. Another said a coffee shop is not good it must be a restaurant. They are either virgins or whores some fucked on the 1st date others did not want sex for weeks and so I departed. Others misunderstand you and take what you said wrong because their English may be poor. I have been here 5 years now and I have accepted the fact that I will be single in Russia until I leave to live in an English speaking country. I was married to a Russian woman for 10 years so I do understand them but they are just not worth the effort.


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